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Are we really a Christian nation?

Christian Living | Posted by Kent DelHousaye
Apr 24 2009

images1In his book Amusing Ourselves to Death Neil Postman makes a most interesting observation about Christianity today saying: “There is no great religious leader–from the Buddha to Moses to Jesus to Mohammed to Luther–who offered people what they want. Only what they need…I believe I am not mistaken in saying that Christianity is a demanding and serious religion. When it is delivered as easy and amusing, it is another kind of religion altogether.”

So, what kind of religion would Christianity be if it is presented as easy and amusing? I think his point is that the American persuasion of Christianity fits that description well. By his observation, the American Christian on average is a different breed of Christian than the historical kind. In the book Postman argues that we are, as a nation, the most misinformed people in the world, and that applies as well to the knowledge and application of our so-called faith.

American Christianity has become to the world something of a caricature of its historic self. In other words, the Church in America today has been qualified as a lightweight version of a heavyweight institution because for the bulk of its history, the Church has leaned hard on its people and demanded much from them whereas today very little is asked or demanded of people by their Christian faith at all.

Yes, we hear sermons about taking up our crosses by being willing to suffer or even die, but almost none of us will ever be called upon to do so. We also hear about hating our mothers and fathers in comparison to loving Jesus, and still very few of us will ever really choose to do that. And, we are told that we should forsake the world in exchange for eternal glory, and yet only a small segment of us will be serious enough about our commitment to follow through with it.

The simple truth is that we are the most comfortable, self-centered and affluent generation living in the most protected, egocentric and excessive nation in all the world, and we have chosen a version of Christianity that fits our paradigm perfectly. Our persuasion of the Christian faith is very much a reflection of ourselves and our culture, and one of the distinctives of that reflection is a relatively easy and amusing Christianity.

Even Neil Postman is cynical about how Christianity is sold and exchanged in our country as a form of shallow entertainment and dedicated a whole chapter in his book to the embarrassing subject. His conclusion is that we have created this brand of Christianity by treating the church like we treat listeners or viewers on radio or television, as demographically monitored consumers to be studied and marketed to. In other words, Christians in the pews are not so much soldiers of faith or servants of righteousness but clients with felt needs as well as thick wallets and open calendars.

The suggestion is that we are responsible for creating this thimble deep Christian consumer culture because we do try to give people not what they need but rather what they want. And, as Postman pointed out, that is not what religion is for. As he rightly said, no recognized worldwide religion in history has offered people what they want, only what they need. And, what people need is not more forms of entertainment but answers to real problems, which aren’t losing weight, making money or having a happier marriage, by the way. No, real problems are personal corruption because of sin, self destruction because of immoral choices and self consumption because of poor stewardship.

Postman rightly observes that Christianity is actually a very demanding and serious religion, but one wouldn’t necessarily get that from a cursory overview of the average church experience. Nor would they get that from the average sermon or book or television simulcast. Though there are obvious exceptions, the usual message sent across pulpits, through pages and over the airwaves is usually a non-offensive user friendly message intended to appeal to and offer something positive to the masses.

Now, it’s not that there isn’t something very positive in the message of the gospel, which is that there is genuine forgiveness, life and purpose for all who believe in Jesus Christ, but that promise is often attached to personal sacrifice, societal rejection and even global persecution. Jesus never offered his followers promises of or keys to prosperity and health but rather guarantees of and invitations to suffering and death. Admittedly, that message doesn’t sell very well to an opulent, egocentric culture, and one can understand why the message has been softened and translated the way that it has today.

However, understanding why and how the message has been changed doesn’t make that aberration acceptable or even tolerable. In fact, accepting and even tolerating that message is precisely the reason why we are in the dilemma we are facing now. Perhaps if we had followed historical precedent and carried on the tradition of keeping the message pure, then we would be in a very different place in the world than we are today.

Postman’s assessment that the message of Christian faith is largely easy and amusing today is primarily why the Church is so large in America in comparison to the Church elsewhere in the world. America has long billed itself as the Christian nation of the world, and it is still perhaps true to make that statement only in the sense that more people call themselves Christian in America per capita than any other country in the world. Now, that number would absolutely plummet to the point of being realistically on par with other nations around the world if we dropped the label and counted genuine disciples of Jesus rather than professing cultural Christians.

I, for one, am convinced that the Church in American is probably nothing close to the size that we boast. And, though I am admittedly skeptical by nature, I feel in my spirit that there are a great many people who fill churches around this nation who neither know Christ or His Word in any sort of personal way. Though they may squeeze attending church into their public life as part of their American social portfolio, the truth of the matter is that likely nothing seismic has occurred in their hearts that would call them to genuine radical and sacrificial faith.

I’m convinced that if we started to call people to make a choice between the two, then the Church would start to take its real form and begin to function as it should. At the same time, I believe that if we did this, then Christians would have to get used to the realization that we are and have probably always been among the religious minority in our country. The truth is that the public face of our nation has always been Christian, but the private practice of our people has really always been something different.

So, perhaps what we need to do is take another look at ourselves in an honest mirror and see what we really look like. Though, we should be forewarned and prepared for the fact that we might not look like we thought we did and might not actually like what we see. But that, after all, may be just the kind of motivation that we need.

What are Christians so angry about?

Evangelism | Posted by Kent DelHousaye
Apr 15 2009

anger-mobI was watching a video clip of an outspoken atheist ranting about how angry and vilifying he says born again Christians are, and after listening to his condescending message, I have to admit that he may actually have a point. Although he plays right into the stereotypes and alleged rumors levied categorically against Christians, he nevertheless makes an interesting point about the vindictive nature that some Christians have toward him and other atheist colleagues.

Now, truthfully, most of what he says about Jesus and the Bible is obscenely arrogant and ignorant, but his banter about how Christians find a certain glee in his hellish torment for his sworn unbelief is interesting and worthy of consideration. Apparently, many born again Christian folk have written scathing letters and emails to him venting their anger about his atheistic polemics and many actually express how much he ought to suffer in hellish torment for his outspoken atheism.

When it comes to preconceived notions and stereotypes of born again Christians, I find that most of them are off base and unmerited. However, there is usually a grain of truth that stereotypes are formed around, which means that there is something probably true about his accusation. As well, I know from personal experience that there are angry Christians among us who do vent their vitriolic frustration out in often ungracious and unwise ways. Unfortunately, those relative few who do this are primarily responsible for the negative views and stereotypes that have been created and perpetuated around the world.

So, his perception of Christians based on his experience is that we for the most part are an angry, judgmental bunch of people. This is an increasingly popular stereotype that has made its way from the philosopher’s classroom in the university all the way to the table discussion at the coffee shop. Chances are, if you ask people on the street what they think about Christians, they will say something to the effect that they are angry, judgmental, close-minded people. Although most of that is untrue and most who say such things have probably nothing in their experience to truly validate that claim, they can point to perpetuated testimonies like these to underline their accusations.

All this is to say that the negative stereotype of the angry Christian is on the rise, but what I just cannot appreciate is why some Christians continue to fuel this fire by proving their point over and over again. Clearly, Christians have to be smarter and better than this. How is it that we who claim to follow Jesus would ever communicate in any fashion a sense of smug glee or delightful satisfaction at the demise and eternal judgment of those who refuse to believe? This is simply unfathomable and a disgrace to the rest of us Christians who know the heart of God better.

As a pastor, I am especially concerned about this issue because it is becoming an inoculating excuse for people not to listen to anything Christians have to say, and it is quickly becoming an almost insurmountable roadblock for the gospel. When it was just a suggestion or a quip, it was something we could navigate around, but now that it is popular mantra, we find ourselves in a progressively isolating predicament. I, personally, can hardly interact with someone outside of the faith without this issue coming up in the first five minutes of any spiritual conversation, and too many people I have encountered are fixated on this excuse to the point where they just aren’t willing to even listen.

This is incredibly unfortunate for us. The fact that this stereotype even exists is cause for concern, but the fact that it is exponential now is really an indictment of the entire Church in the world. If we cannot communicate the gospel because ears are closed off to it, then we cannot effectively accomplish the task that Jesus has given  us. And, we cannot share the message of love and forgiveness if most don’t consider us to even have it.

If we look at the Scriptures, we do not see evidence of a God who is gleefully vindictive against those who reject or even spite him. In fact, God is famously known for loving the worst of all people at their worst moments and always extending his offer of forgiveness and conciliation to those who don’t deserve it. In the Old Testament book of Ezekiel it declares:  “As I live, declares the LORD GOD, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but that the wicked turn from his way and live.”

And, even Jesus as he was dying on the cross compassionately asked His Father not to hold anything over and against his tormentors and killers for their ignorant actions. We don’t see conspicuous evidence in the Old or New Testaments of a God or his people gleefully enjoying holy wrath being poured out on others. Though we do see evidence of those who called for God’s justice on evil and were thankful for that judgment, they did not dance joyfully on the graves of their enemies.

In my judgment, the relative but apparently outspoken few so called Christians who say such things are tragically far from the heart of God. Either they do not know God at all or they know Him very little. In my experience, those who don’t know God cannot evidence his heart and those who barely know him are not willing to. If self proclaimed Christians call for the gleeful extermination and torment of others who don’t agree with them, then they obviously are doing so out of a carnal faith.

I have also found that some people who claim to be Christians often are most critical of those who most resemble themselves or at least reflect their own sinful tendencies. I have counseled Christians who say they “hate” others and have told them that if the Holy Spirit of God truly lived within them that they would be incapable of hating others. So, the revelation that they are so angry at someone else is often an indication of either false or extremely immature faith. So, what they may be so threatened by is actually what they are struggling with themselves.

My belief is that if we truly understand who we are in Jesus Christ and have a correct view of God and His relationship with us and others, then we should never be angry or threatened by anyone’s disbelief. After all, why should we be so bothered by their unbelief if we are so secure in our belief? By not believing, all they are doing is acting as we should expect. They should be incredulous, skeptical and even mocking of what we believe, so why are we so bothered by that? My view is that they can rant all they want but it won’t change my secure understanding of who I am in Jesus Christ. That is, of course, unless my understanding is flawed or even non-existent.

I want to exhort my brothers and sisters in Christ to first concern themselves with their own spiritual condition, which is usually enough to keep us occupied. Second, I want to encourage them to fully understand and appreciate their own secured faith and standing in the body of believers. And third, I want for them to learn from and imitate God’s heart and love for all people who don’t share our belief but especially for the evil and wicked people in the world who despise it.

Jesus plainly told us to “love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us” so there really is no reason any one of us should not love or not pray especially for the avowed and outspoken atheists in the world who want to find more reasons and excuses to dismiss our belief in God, His Holy Spirit and His Son Jesus Christ. And, for the sake of the gospel, it is my sincere hope and prayer that we will not provide them any more reasons or excuses.

The Problem of Vagabond Christians

Church | Posted by Kent DelHousaye
Apr 09 2009

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I had an interesting dialogue with my father about pastoral ministry recently, and he said something in our conversation that really made me think. After having pastored a thriving church for 25 years, he decided to step down and take on leadership at a seminary full-time. I had asked him if leaving was difficult for him because of all the relationships that he had built and invested into for all of those years. His response was that it was not as hard as one would think because he noticed that as he scanned the faces in the crowd on Sunday mornings in the months before he resigned, he noticed that he no longer recognized most of the faces of the people in the room anymore. Apparently, so many people had come and gone through the years that the entire face of the church had changed.

As a pastor, I have observed for myself this incredible shift of people who change churches almost as often as they change clothes. And, I have been amazed as I have witnessed this ongoing flux of Christians who tend to wander from church to church looking for the newest and greatest show on earth. Now, what has amazed me even more is that churches seem to be willingly feeding this wanderlust by strangely competing with one another for their attention.

Having been in pastoral ministry for almost a decade now, I have crossed paths with a number of pastors and churches that are unapologetic about and consumed with their church growth models and marketing strategies, and they will try just about anything to lure the masses into their sanctuaries and even away from others. On a recent Sunday morning that I was free from responsibilities at my own fellowship, I was able to visit a large church that boasted the most expensive facilities and amenities in the area and was amused to find a large bookstore complete with religiously themed t-shirts, Christian skull caps and Bible action figures. There was also an expansive coffeehouse with a full breakfast buffet…all the necessary things we  need for a genuine worship experience, of course. But, what struck me the most during my visit was not the multi-million dollar sound system or the state of the art children’s computer check in system, but one simple revelatory notation in the church bulletin.

As I sat down in the back before the service and read through the bulletin I noticed that the church posted for all to see those who had recently “transferred” membership to the church. Now, maybe it’s just me, but the veritable fact that people are transferring from other churches to yours is probably something we should be actually embarrassed of rather than proud of. People shifting from one congregation to another does not grow the kingdom of God but simply reshapes it.  And, it seems to me that this ongoing shape-shifting is probably a shameful indictment of a fickle church culture and not a measure of ministry success. So, I’m wondering if celebrating these tidal shifts is wise or even appropriate.

Now, I know that people do move at times from one church to another for understandable and necessary reasons such as a physical move from one community into another or a fundamental doctrinal or philosophical disagreement with their former church home. But, when people shift their membership simply because of their ever changing tastes, styles and preferences, then what we have created and permitted is a formula for a hollow Church.

The author Calvin Miller in his book Once Upon A Tree put it this way: “Fields of suburban Christians migrate from congregation to congregation, propelled by a wanderlust for the greatest Christian show on earth. This ecclesiastical restlessness thwarts the holy work of God’s saving community. The saving work of our Savior cannot prosper while his community wanders in search of something glitzy to fill its shallow heart. The reverbs and amps and colored spots of contemporary worship can come to focus on a plastic discipleship where shepherds replace their crooks of pastoral care with vaudeville hats and canes.”

What he is saying is that the wanderlust of vagabond Christians who skip from church to church with the attention span of 4 year olds is not only undermining the stability of the local church but is also stifling the progress of spiritual growth. There was a time in the first few centuries of the church that there was only one notable church assembly in each city for people to attend and, and if they had differences that divided them, then they needed to overcome those differences in order to fellowship and worship. They did not have the option of just attending another church down the street or around the corner as they did not have the luxury of simply running away from their diversities. No, they had to find unity in the midst of their diversity.

Today, though, if we get bored or disagree with each other on even the most minute details of doctrinal fidelity, then we simply feel entitled to either find another church that suits us better or just start a church of our own. Through the centuries, we have divided and denominated ourselves ad infinitum to the point where there are too many different assemblies in any given city to even count. Now, that ought to strike us as odd especially since Jesus specifically prayed that the church would “be one” in John 17. Jesus wanted His Church, above all, to be united around the globe and we have instead chosen to be divided over and over and over again.

So, that leads me to conclude that we are merely living out the effects of the divisions that we ourselves have created. We have effectively catered to the consumer Christian by constantly offering them an array of alternatives rather than challenging them to learn the importance of steadfast commitments. What we perhaps don’t realize is that by creating an ever growing menu of churches and ministries, we are actually enhancing the expectations of an already shallow consumer culture.

For me, one of my primary frustrations in church ministry is the ever revolving door that is pushed around on its axis by vagabond Christians who blow in and out of churches because they don’t seem to understand or appreciate the importance of a commitment. And, perhaps they don’t know any better because we just keep enabling it. I’m thinking that their flaky, non-commital modus operandi is fueled first by our unwillingness to expect more of them but also by our reluctance to stop trying to find new ways to entertain them.

Why I don’t believe in UFOs

Aliens and UFOs | Posted by Kent DelHousaye
Apr 04 2009

ufo1As a pastor I have been asked surprisingly often if I believe in extra terrestrials, UFOs and alien abductions. And though I think the concept makes for intriguing late night stories and big ticket Hollywood films, my answer is usually a quick and resolute no. It’s not that I have no imagination or some personal agenda to prove. The reason I believe that there is no extra terrestrial life out there is simply an exercise in biblical common sense. Let me explain what I mean.

In Romans chapter 8, the Apostle Paul makes a very profound statement about the consequences of original sin not just on earth but throughout the entire universe. He writes in 8:20-22 “For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to decay and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth (emphasis added).”

Paul clearly states under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit that Adam’s sin corrupted not just the earth but the “whole creation”. He’s saying that because of Adam’s sin, all of creation fell along with him and has been subject to the judgment of God ever since. He says that only by forgiveness through faith in Jesus Christ is one liberated from this “bondage of decay”.

And, not only is the entire creation corrupted by Adam’s sin, but all creation will also be destroyed because of it. The Apostle Peter in 2 Peter 3:7 says that “by the same word the heavens and earth that now exist are stored up for fire, being kept until the day of judgment and destruction of the ungodly.” And he adds in 3:10 that “the day of the Lord will come like a thief and then the heavens will pass away with a roar, and the heavenly bodies will be burned up and dissolved, and the earth and the works that are done on it will be exposed.”

So, let me ask a simple question based on these passages of Scripture. If God did in fact create any other intelligent life in the universe, then why would our sin be their death sentence? In other words, why would their demise be tied up with our own? After all, if there really was alien life on another planet in another solar system, then it wouldn’t make sense that our sin on this earth would also plunge their race into our judgment. It is not only illogical but also inconsistent with what we know to be true of God’s revelation about himself.

According to the Bible, Adam, the earthling, is solely responsible for introducing the consequence of sin to the world and, for that matter, to the entire universe. Romans 5:12 says “Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned.” For Adam to be the original sinner, that means that if there were other beings living in the universe, then they would not or could not have sinned before Adam. So then, if aliens did exist, they would either have to be sinless aliens or have come into existence after we did and be likewise condemned by our human sin.

At the same time, if there were aliens living somewhere else in the universe, then why would God have sent his Son to suffer and die but only for the redemption of human beings on earth? Romans 5:18 says “Therefore, as one trespass led to condemnation for all men, so one act of righteousness leads to justification and life for all men.” But, what about justification and life for all creation? If there was another line of extra terrestrial life out there, then Jesus’ act of redemption surely would have extended to them as well, right?

Back in Romans 8 Paul adds that even though all creation groans because it is corrupted by human sin, it is only the human race that will be redeemed by Jesus’ death. Verse 23 says, “And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies.” Simply put, if God had intended that He would redeem extra terrestrial life (creation) also by Jesus’ death, then Paul surely would have included that vital information here.

Now, all that is to say that although I do not for biblical and rational reasons believe in extra terrestrial life, I do believe in extra physical life. Meaning, I do absolutely believe in the existence of a supernatural race of beings we know are called angels. The Bible has much to say about the very real existence of angels of light and angels of darkness who operate in an unseen dimension all around us. In 2 Corinthians 4:18 it says that “the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” So, there is an order of “alien” or angelic beings that do manifest themselves throughout the universe, and it is my belief that what people think are encounters with the 3rd kind are actually encounters with real angelic beings.

As it says in Ephesians 6:12 “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in heavenly places.” Given this, it makes sense why so many people would confuse “spiritual forces” with extra terrestrials. In fact, this confusion is most likely not accidental but actually quite intentional.

What I mean by this is that Satan and his angels of darkness (demons) have deceived humanity by trying to mask or at the very least confuse their existence so they can work covertly behind the scene. Therefore, angels of darkness have cleverly disguised themselves  by convincing people that they aren’t real but that aliens are.  And, if they can convince people that they do not exist by blaming their activity on alien encounters, then they can work in the minds and hearts of people essentially unrecognized and unabated.

The simply truth is that there are no alien beings living on other planets waiting to invade our planet to experiment on our minds and consume our resources. Those stories are either just figments of imaginative minds or misplaced encounters with supernatural angelic beings. As Christians, we must be careful not to  be deceived by the crafty “schemes of the devil” who wants to redirect our attention away from what is really happening in the spiritual realm.

It is because of this clever deception tactic that Paul urges us in Ephesians 6:13 to “take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.”   So, we are mandated to stand firm with the truth about what is really going on in the world around us, and that means exposing lies and crafty schemes whenever and wherever we happen to see (or not see) them.

The Endurance Race

Christian Living | Posted by Kent DelHousaye
Apr 01 2009

TortoiseA few years ago I trained for and ran in my first and last foot race. It was an 8k run called the Schlotzkys Bun Run, and I still remember that the theme was “Run your buns off!”. And, that I did. I trained throughout the grueling summer before the race and actually got into the best running shape of my life. The only problem was that I didn’t know that there was more to running than just speed…there’s an important element called pace.

Well, when the gun sounded, I remember taking off like a jackrabbit and keeping up with the front of the pack for the first couple of miles. I seemed to just breeze past many tortoises in the field of runners and was feeling like I was born for this! But, soon it became clear that I was, in fact, not born for this.

After the first couple of miles, my chest started to hurt and my legs started to ache, and about half way through the course I started to feel like my lungs were going to combust and my legs petrify. And, I realized that I was no longer running as much as skipping with intermittent periods of walking. As I was painfully plodding along the road, I noticed that many of the tortoises I passed up early on were now passing me by en masse, and I remember feeling especially bad about myself when some elderly ladies blew by me.

Well, I did eventually finish the race in very unspectacular fashion, but I was glad actually that I just survived it. I got the t-shirt but lost my pride. All that to say that I learned some important things as I reflected on that race afterward. Though it was likely my last undignified foray into the world of running, I am glad that I made the effort anyway. First, because of what it taught me about pride, but second because of what it taught me about the nature of the Christian life.

There is a man in the church that I pastor who runs 100 mile endurance races several times during the year. That’s right, 100 mile races! I had never heard of anything like this until he approached me after a Sunday sermon when I had compared the Christian life to a foot race citing Paul’s illustration about the runner competing for the prize. Now, I had heard of marathons and triathlons but had never conceived that it was humanly possible to run 100 miles!

Well, as he told me about his exploits running these long foot races in all kinds of terrain, he recounted how during each race he would at times stumble and even fall, how he would get sick or develop blisters on his feet, how he would get dehydrated and lightheaded, and how he would at times walk for long periods to catch his breath. What I heard was that even though he always finished the race that there were many peaks and valleys, ebbs and flows as well as breathers and breaks along the way. Rarely if ever had he completed a race in one smooth and steady trajectory. No, there were bumps and bruises as well as setbacks and slowdowns that defined the journey every time.

As I listened to his experiences and thought on them, I realized that his exploits on the open road were not unlike the experience of the Christian life. And, more than that, I figured out that my perception of the course of Christian living up until that point had been mistaken. You see, I sort of always thought that the nature of the Christian life was that it was a course of wise and righteous living that despite occasional bumps and drops was on a positive trajectory at all times. In other words, although I had always considered the speed of the race, I had not considered the pace.

And, maintaining the pace means that there are times that you walk or even stop to catch your breath or get some perspective, that there are times when you fall and need some extra help and attention, and that there are painful bruises and cuts that make portions of the journey difficult and frustrating. The nature of the Christian life is truly like an endurance race, and it is called a race of “endurance” for a reason. Enduring means surviving and completing the journey, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that the journey is smooth or even direct for any of us.

The truth is that the journey of the Christian life is not static but dynamic, and that means that there are ebbs and flows in the process for each one of us.  And, although the course itself is in many ways the same for all of us, the obstacles and effects of each part of the journey for each person is different.

What this means to me is that we have to give ourselves the grace to walk or even stop when we’re spiritually winded to get some rest or at least some perspective. And, if this means taking on less commitments or taking a break altogether for a time to get refreshed or healed, then that’s ok. This also means that we must expect that there will be bumps and bruises that will make life hard at times, and those setbacks will force us to confront our doubts and frustrations, which is all a healthy part of the process of spiritual development. As well, this means that we will stumble and fall at times and sometimes in very painful ways, and when that happens we will need some extra help and encouragement from others to help us get back on our feet.

Whatever occurs in our Christian life, it helps to know that what matters most is that we finish and survive the race. The only really disappointing outcome for any of us is if we never get to the finish line at all. Although, we tend to judge ourselves and others by how we are doing right now, we need to remember that we will be judged by God not on how we’re faring right now but by how we fare for the duration! What I mean is that God reviews our lives in their entirety and knows that there will be dynamic ebbs and flows in our lives so He chooses to wait for us at the finish line rather than along the course.

So, I guess it all comes down to this…we have to learn to look at our life the way that God does, in its entirety. And, when we do that, we can stop being so hard on ourselves and others about how well we happen to be running at the moment because what matters most is not that we ran the race smoothly but that we ran with endurance!